This I Believe

The phrase “This I believe” carries echoes of the church I was raised in. For years belief meant obedience, an unquestioning acceptance of someone else’s truth. I was taught that faith was certainty, that doubt was rebellion, and that submission belonged only to a higher power defined by others. Those lessons shaped me, but they also harmed me. They silenced curiosity, denied consent, and turned connection into control.

Today, I speak this phrase again, but with new intent. This I believe is no longer about doctrine; it is about discovery. It is the active, ongoing process of reclaiming meaning from the ruins of dogma. Kink is a spiritual practice: a way to confront shame, explore truth through the body; and build relationships rooted in trust, vulnerability, and mutual power. Within the ritual of leather I have found what organized religion promised but never delivered: community, reverence, and freedom.

I do not seek to erase the language of my past; I seek to redeem it. Words like faith, grace, and devotion still resonate, but they have changed shape. Faith is now the courage to trust. Grace is the space we give one another to grow. Devotion is the deliberate choice to show up fully, again and again, with care and consent.

This page is a living archive of what I believe: principles shaped by experience, informed by reflection, and grounded in the pursuit of connection. From my Code of Conduct to explorations of Consent, each piece reflects how I strive to walk this world: aware, intentional, and unashamed of the sacredness found in desire.

Here, in no particular order I present my statements of faith.